Q: I've been divorced for two years and don't know how to move on. He left after 10 years together without any explanation. I don't have any money for counseling. Do you have any suggestions on how to get on with my life?

-Carrie A.

A: Hi Carrie,

I'm sorry to read that you're still hoping for your ex-husband's return and unable to move on after two years apart. Even though feelings of regret and sorrow over the ending of a marriage are normal and can last a long time, it sounds like what you're experiencing is something more complicated. The fact that you're reaching out for help tells me that you're tired of being stuck in the past and ready for this agony to end. However, the assistance you need isn't something that I can provide in this short exchange. I know you said that you don't have the means for counseling, but the good news is that there are places you can go for help for little or no money.

Many therapists operate on an income-based sliding scale. This means that they only charge you what you can afford. Call up a couple, see if they have a sliding pay scale and then ask them what their fee would be for someone with your resources. You could also go to your local community mental health center. They typically offer a sliding fee scale or often offer their services for free if you have no ability to pay. Universities typically have graduate programs in counseling where they offer free services to community residents. Your local place of worship is also a great resource. You could also ask for references from your local hospital or personal doctor as they're typically well connected with these types of services in their communities.

I hope you take my advice and investigate some or all of these options, Carrie, because there's definitely help out there for those with limited financial resources.

Wishing You Great Health,
Dr. John H. Sklare